My motto is say what you mean and mean what you say. Probably the number one most annoying quality that people have today is self-talk not lining up with what comes out of their mouths actually, or their actions.

For instance, answer this question honestly:

When you have more things going on in your busy calendar than you have room for you-

a. get tense, irritable, and try to do everything, devoting a minimal amount of time to each thing, and give nothing your complete attention.

b.calm yourself down by allocating responsibilities to others and give yourself some relaxation time.

Tell me, how many of you looked at answer a and identified with it but wished you were more like b.?

Here’s another-

You feel a hunger pang, but you are working at losing weight-

a.You eat something fattening and feel lousy

b.You drink some water then reward yourself for resisting and pat yourself on the back

Again, do you realize how many people I come across everyday that are thinking like b but act like a?

There is a great new book out by Dr.Wayne Dyer (favorite author by the way) called Pulling Your Own Strings. Okay, not a new book, it was originally published back in 1977, but you would marvel at how relevant it still is.

I am sure this will end up being a never-ending blog point for me since it bugs me so much all the time and I see it everywhere everyday…. but for now, my 2 cents.

I was taught, not by my parents necessarily, but nonetheless taught that a man is measured not by his means, money, appearance or the like, but rather by his word. Christians understand this best because they hold Jesus to his word. The words in the Bible for instance.

A man can have all the money, the fame, be the most attractive and more. However, if he is a shady liar, that is what he will be known for.

You don’t get to have great friends or family in life without being someone whose word means something, for that is where character is born.

I, for one, would rather have someone honestly tell me they don’t like my potato salad at a party, than to eat it in silent disgust with a sourpuss face and bad attitude. They, while forcing themselves to eat what they don’t like will give off such a negative presence to me and everyone around that I will get the feeling that I don’t want them around anyway. It may take that person months or years to come clean and tell me that all along it was the potato salad that kept us apart! Ugh.

Life can be so easy and importantly stress-free for the most part, if more people would just accept one another and show their true-selves. It is far easier to deal with the truth up-front when it happens, than years later when feelings get in the way.

In the above matter of a and b in those questions I asked, after some time you will find that the people who think like b but act like a, well, they are miserable. They spend too much energy trying to find excuses for why they can’t be honest about what they are thinking or feeling that they drain the life out of themselves and lose the point to being here all together. If half the energy was spent being true to themselves, imagine how much happier we all could be.

Until next time,